I Promise

I will be the first to admit that I was pretty apprehensive when " I Promise" was first introduced in our connect group. I was all over it and was convinced this was another self-help marriage book like Dr. Gray's Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Worst still when the author of this particular book was also named Dr. Gray.

I did not want to read the book not out of fear or arrogance, but rather I assume this was going to be the same ol, same ol stuff that all those motivational dudes are writing these days.

But alas I was pretty surprise after going through some of the lessons I found out this book/lesson to be rather insightful. The principals are biblical, the common sense is there and the case studies, well spot on. Which made me research deeper into the lesson and book. Mind you I am only at chapter 2. This is what it says. I promise to confirm my beliefs to God's Truths. What a great promise. The author writes, All escalated arguments are really just your attempt to change your mate and their attempt to change you, how true is that!. It also goes to say that all addictions are nothing more than a person trying to medicate the pain they are having with weak relationships.

And he shares the secret which is rather awesome. It is not what happens to you that determines your happiness or your quality or life. Your quality of life comes directly from the beliefs you have in your heart.

Quote: Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.

Quote: Proverbs 23:7 For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.

All I can say is this, this lesson or book has greatly open up areas in me that I never thought about. Open up hidden areas towards my wife and kids. It is like that light bulb that goes * BLINK* above your head.

Go get the book if you want to get more out of your marriage, if you want more security from your marriage, happiness, love, sense of comfort and to stay together not just for the sake of the kids but rather because you are still deeply in love with your mate. Trust me it's worth every penny. Instead of doing the trial and error thing in your marriage which is something I wouldn't recommend go get the book.

To finish this off I offer you more insights to the book.

Four Ways to guard your heart.
1. Identify any areas in your life that does not reflect God's Love. E.g Thoughts of anger, Lust, Envy, Arrogance, Rage, Contempt....etc

Galatians: 5:13 For you have been called to live in freedom- not freedom to satisfy your sinful nature, but freedom to serve one another in love.

2. Find a Bible verse that addresses the behaviour that needs to change.
3. Commit it to memory (Memory Verse)
4. Repeat, Live, Eat & Breathe it.

Finally, Guard Your Heart, above all other things, because out of it comes who you are.

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Growing Up !

I am really proud of this video. Basically the only good Vid I have of him playing his drums this was recorded when he was 1 year 5 months I think. Well I lied I do have more just am too lazy to post them up on the tube. But anyhow do enjoy.

Letters

Just a couple of months back I started writing letters to my son who is 3 now. Having a son at this age is totally amazing, I mean the conversation that is going on with him and his thought trails is at times so overwhelming especially when bedtime comes. I would have to use all my negotiation skills to get him to sleep. But alas it's never a dull moment with him.

So recently out of nowhere I decided to start a gmail string of letters to him (I hope gmail or google for that matter don't go kaput ).I just decided that I needed to pen down certain important stuff that I wanted to tell him on many occasions when I was with him but knowing that he would not really grasp what I was trying to say (like what I am typing here now and you probably do not have a freaking idea what I am trying to say).

 So son, if by accident you happen to read this, remember. " I Love You Son" - and your reply will be......

Long Overdue

After like what seems to be forever I stumbled upon my blog again. Posted the link on FB and got criticise for not posting enough entries. So well here's one. Posted!

This is Sparta

May 2007.


Spartan Baby Is Born
WAAaaaaaAAaaaaaaaaaaaa........! The silence of the night is suddenly broken. Panic stricken I jumped out of my warm bed and rushed toward what sounded like a cry of pain and anguish, all sleepiness gone my attention was now focused to this little 3 over kg small human (mini me) wriggling and squirming in its cot crying its head off. Yes my little Spartan is born a.k.a “Baby Lucas". 

Sweat rolling down my brows and my heart beating like a drum, I pick my Lil’ baby up, suddenly a deep cold realization hit me...'This is MY Son' I am a FATHER!!! I felt weak at the knees and would have buckled under what seems like a huge load in my arms if my wife didn’t hold on to me. 

Joy, gladness, thankfulness, excitement and apprehensive all this feelings were deep inside of me. Baby Lucas was crying his head out and I Mr. Dad didn’t know what to do. Was he hungry? But I just fed him! was he wet? No it can’t be, I just changed him 5 minutes ago! Oh No! he must have caught colic…that dreaded “COLIC” a fear of every new parent. This is really not how I want to start my first night with baby. I hold him close to me and try my best to comfort him. Taking a quick glance at the clock i notice it's already 3.am gosh! It’s been a hard day. I was tired out of my mind; my body was screaming from exhaustion what am I to do?

WAAaaaaaAAaaaaaaaaaaaa....... will it stop? Hush little baby, I try comforting him with a song hoping my voice will calm him, I say a silent pray and hold him close to me patting him on the back SUDDENLY! "Buuurrrrrpppppp…… " And all chaos stops! No more crying no more fussing. Baby Lucas just needed a good old slap in the back or rather to be burped. Silence and peace ,all seems well now. I lay him back in his cot; he looks at me briefly and slowly drifts to sleep. His face peaceful again with the occasional baby noises that only a baby can make.
Yes, I am A Daddy now, and this is my first night and more to come. I have never been happier or more excited in my entire life. I am a Dad “A Spartan Dad” and I will be ready for anything I hope. What a wonderful thing. 

Till fingers meets keyboard


Live with Passion

Back in Twitter

Hey Guys I'm back in twitter again here's my link: http://twitter.com/nixonlee

 

Been doing lots of reading on how I can use twitter and finally decide to. Well being a typical dad, I decided to record my son's drumming he's one year plus now (can't really remember the months) I was pretty free and decided to post it on youtube. I did not expect any respond. When I did get some responses I went wild I think he might just have something there now my lil rugrat :D here it is. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qC1xODK5m6s

Have fun..